The time I started answering authographs made by my classmates in highschool ( I used to have one too), I always pause when it comes to the question “what is love”. As far as I can remember, the phrase that I usually write is this “Love is blind…Love is sacrifice..” I have thought it so simple in that manner. Simple, in a way that its defined literally according to how everybody sees it including me at that time. If they see a couple not physically matched for each other, they would mumble “ohh love is blind..” If one has to give way, in a relationship, the reason behind is that “love is sacrifice”. Somehow, it makes a little sense, isn’t it?

I have never imagined that this four-letter-word is deep enough that it is pretty hard to fathom. Love for me is the ultimate reason why people stay together. In a family, friendships and in intimate relationships. I may bet, almost everyone of us has been into failed relationships. There are a lot of underlying reasons why and how relationships fail.  So the question there is why does love fade.. or does it really meant to fade over time? does love get tired?  Oh love, love, love, I have thousand of questions in my head about love and I am quite sure you, too. I wanted a clear and exact definition of this word that I could apply in my life.

I am 25 years old now, at the peak of my tender years. I have been into hundred of fall downs and fly ups. I am proud of those moments in my precious life. Had not because of them, I woudn’t be able to finally discover what I have been searching for, the meaning of love. Love is actually the free exercise of choice. Each individual should exercise that freedom of choice in a good way. As a unique human being we have special needs in our life. This means that, we should learn to live independently in terms of emotions and decisions. When we love, we should know how to stand on our feet. We should never get dependent on someone’s dreams, emotions and decisions. May it be our parents, our husbands or wives, or even friends. M. Scott Peck, the author of the wonderful book I have read, The Roadless Travelled, that inspired and helped me come to understand love precisely, quoted that “People love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other”. From that, I have finally realized why relationships fail, why we think love fades, why we think love gets tired. Fact is, Love never fades, nor gets tired. Most times we get so selfish we dont notice it. We hold their wings tight so they couldn’t fly. Sometimes, we tend to get so dependent on them that we are too scared to fly on our wings as well. If it happens that way, then its no longer love. Since it is freedom to make choices, we have plenty of rooms to discover about ourselves that could flourish our relationships. We are never locked into our small cubes that would stop us from learning something new and from becoming a better friend,  a better wife or husband, better girlfriend or boyfriend, or better parents.

You love someone sincerely when you let the person fly on its two wings. You, gazing from a distance looking high up on him/her. Glad to see how gracefully the person you love glides through the winds. Sometimes, you may fly side by side. Flying in the same direction toward your dreams…